Jackie and Rachael (coaches at Inspiration Activated) are like you, in the COVID-19 situation together with you and your family. Everyone is adapting to new situations, challenges and circumstances. What is important is that as we adapt, we choose effective ways of doing so. As individuals you have the capacity to choose how you respond to circumstances and change and lead yourself in a way that empowers you rather than disables you. This blog has ideas, tips and inspiration for you and those around you to support you to step up to live life to the max by being incredibly courageous, having faith and showing love to each other. Use it, share it with your friends and family and get in touch for further support.
Remember we are in this together and Jackie and I are here together for you.
Rachael & Jackie.
The Release yourself from the lockdown:
As we start to return to an adjusted reality of normal and you may find yourself hearing stories of what other people have completed, done or enjoyed during the lockdown weeks. Some are recognising their waistlines have changed for the worse and others are wishing perhaps they could stay at home longer. Sometimes this can start a cycle of guilt and regret. One method of changing this is finding a piece of paper and writing down the truth of what you did or didn’t do during the lockdown and why.
Here is an excerpt of Rachael’s – you can notice that I seemed to get into a flow of saying the complete opposite. It may not be the same for you and yet the truth actually sets you free. The truth allows you to see all aspects of your experience, it allows you to recognise yourself, forgive yourself and move forwards. Sometimes we get ourselves in pickles because we forget the truth. Writing the truth down gives you time to consider what actually happened. Then at the end of it you could choose to consider what you have learnt about yourself during this time and how that can help you to be more effective or happier in some way in the future. The interesting conclusion I came to was that the range of actions or lack of action, many emotions and many thought processes that I went through were similar to other blocks of time in my life. So perhaps you'll give yourself a break, even a pat on the back after you come to your own truth by writing down or saying outloud your experience.
Rachael's release diary:
Sometimes when faced with our own changes, we can forget that others in our sphere of influence are also facing challenges and need our support right now. Remember to reach out and show support and compassion to others. As the WHO director said "compassion is medicine". Make sure you GIVE your prescribed dose of compassion to yourself, your loved ones and to strangers you come across each and everyday!
Does “grateful” work for you?
Have you heard the concept of being grateful? Of writing a gratitude diary? Have you given it a go? Have you stopped because it doesn't feel right?
The simple background to the gratitude concept is - if you produce more positive thanks for your life as it is now you create a mental approach to life that can give you greater happiness, joy and fulfillment as well as support you in times of challenge and stress because you will have something in your life you can be thankful for. A powerful concept.
However, I often find myself not engaging with the word grateful or sometimes I dislike the word thankful. I go around my mind trying to put words to how I feel about the fact that I my car works, I have a phone to call my family or that its a sunny day. The trick i've found is NOT to use the same word everytime - to really SEARCH, to really be authentic when you are saying thanks for something in your life. Here are some ideas:
I am ecstatic that....
It is delightful that...
Thank you universe for....
Go ahead and create your own, the key is that whatever you are writing, saying or thinking it actually MEANS something to you.
'What does your future look like?
Looking into the distance is like looking into your future. The COVID-19 situation has led to a large amount of uncertainty, new adaptations, new realities – ultimately a lot of changes in how you picture your future. However we must remember that life's changes happened before COVID and will continue to happen afterwards, change is inevitable. However, it times of sudden or dramatic change it can feel scary considering what the future has in store for you, your family, the country and the world. Here is a chance for you to consider your reaction to the unknown and optimise your reaction to serve you rather than hinder you. If you look optimistically towards your future you’ll be in the position to take actions towards this bright future. However if you get caught up in the news and the changes in our lives you are more likely to miss the opportunities that could lead you forwards in life. The future is unknown and if you think about it, it always has been. We always take steps towards an unknown future its just your choice whether you are dragging those steps or you step with precision and decisiveness!
This unknown can be linked to emotions of fear and being scared. However, if we didn’t have an unknown then life would be incredibly BORING. We wouldn’t do anything differently, nothing different would happen, and we wouldn’t change, learn or grow. The unknown gives life its excitement, its freshness, its spontaneity! That being said, we each need to feel that we have some control and certainty in our lives. In this time of real change, we need to realise what is certain in our life – perhaps it is your connections with family and friends, perhaps it’s the sun that rises and sets each day, perhaps it’s a belief in your God or universe to help you maintain a sense of security. I would suggest you locate each day a few things you can be certain of during this period of change as it will support you in adapting effectively and courageously.
Another aspect of cultivating certainty can also be considered ‘faith’ – trusting in the future and by doing so you imagine a hopeful future at some point. The concept of fear is similar because we fear when we imagine a future and yet instead of imagining a hopeful future (faith), it’s a scary or worrying future. So it seems we have a choice – faith vs. fear.
Having faith includes putting into your imagined future the concept that someday in the near future, you will discover a gift, a 'lightbulb' moment, a learning opportunity to come from this circumstance. At times the stories we follow in the short term are stories of problem, depression, challenge and failure. If we hold onto this part of the story we miss the ultimate teaching moment. We miss the learning, the growth and the backbone building. We need to remember that challenges can be a gift. By living through a challenge we often learn to be empathetic to others because we can see ourselves in another person’s situation and have more drive to support and help others during their time of need. This can bring us all together and as a collective force we can gather our resources and remember that right now is not the end of our story, it is part of it and we have the power to set up the next chapter by cultivating faith.
Now, it is important to know if you focus on a hopeful future filled with faith it doesn’t necessarily mean you will get it, but at least you will be living in an emotional state which empowers you to take effective action steps towards your future. A potential future in which you feel awesome about as opposed to a future you are scared or fearful about where you have so many uncertain scenarios that scare and worry you that it limits your options in life. I know which process I’d prefer to be running in my brain – how about you? Would now be the right time to have faith in your future?
Inspiration to picture a bright future:
Like you, I’ve found that life holds the greatest of challenges and the highest of highs. Life is precious and it needs to be lived with joy and not with suffering.
I continue to seek information, gain skills and learning in order to not repeat ‘mistakes’ which if I learn from them are not ‘mistakes’. I GROW from situations whether they be in my life or those around me so that I can live the life I love. Ultimately I GROW to be able to GIVE more and more to my clients, to strangers, to family and friends. That is why I continue to learn and upskill.
Just remember, the quality of the relationships in your life impact the quality of your life as a whole. But you need to start with yourself first. Understand and be honest to yourself. Like and LOVE yourself first. This will set you up to have quality relationships whether it is with strangers, your lover, friends, family, colleagues or your spouse.
What is precious? It is people - so start with yourself!
Hi my name is Jackie Lenihan and I’m a Life Coach at Inspiration Activated. Over the last few years I’ve experienced a situation that has the norm in working life these days - RESTRUCTURE.
Business restructuring is frequent, it is swift and it can be brutal to the employees involved. If a restructure does occur the impact can be prolonged because following a restructure there is then an internal restructure of teams. The internal turmoil cannot be underestimated as your workplace friendships, tea and coffee break buddies and other workplace routines get muddled with.
It can be a very frightening time for people, being very unsure about what is going to happen to their jobs, how they will be able to manage. It takes a huge toll on people’s self esteem and if it goes on too long then it also can bring the worst out in people because they go into self-preservation mode. Often people in this situation think that if “I don’t have this job then I am worthless, a failure”. It’s almost like you are letting your job define who you are as a person. This couldn’t be farthest from the truth.
I’ve been through a lot of these restructures over the last 20 years, in fact I’ve been made redundant four times and each time it has been frightening. Being a solo parent and wondering how I was going to support my children and keep a roof over their heads kept me awake at night. I felt like such a failure and didn’t know what to do. I felt like I was very much alone and had no one to turn to. But by taking one day at a time I managed to get through, I learned to see the things that I did have, the people around me who loved me and were there for me and the skills I had obtained over the years.
I’ve learnt that being made redundant or being disestablished doesn’t define who I am as a person. But that this is a journey that has grown me and gotten me to a point that I understand my value and learnt that I can take control of my life and destiny and not be subject to the whims of corporations. Even if you’ve never been in this situation, wherever you are in life you need to know your own value as a person. There are essential things that you need to understand and do to prepare for a restructure:
One - ENGAGE:
When you hear that there is going to be a restructure, don’t react quickly but engage with the process. Find out what the company executive has in mind and don’t be afraid to ask questions. A lot of the time the executive will benefit greatly by your input because you are the one who does the job and know the important things that need to be thought of (it’s important that you don’t underestimate your knowledge and understanding of your roles). Also, if you get as much information as possible it will give you a better understanding on whether you will fit into the new structure or not, and you can make decisions that will benefit your future.
Two – EMOTIONAL MANAGEMENT:
This is a very emotional time, and when you are afraid its so easy to get taken away with your emotions and the emotions of those around you. Something I’ve learnt while studying to become a life coach with top coaches Tony Robbins, Cloe Madanes, Mark Peysha and Magali Peysha of Robbins-Madanes Training, is that emotions are things that we do! They don’t happen to us. We have responsibility for and control over our emotions. It was quite and eye opener to me to see that I don’t have to be ruled by my emotions but I can control them.
There are things that we do as human beings to create emotions, it’s called a triad:
For example, when you feel sad you will be focussing on a something particular (not being good enough) , then you may notice your head will look down, your shoulders will draw down and close, the next thing is you will be saying things like “I’m useless, I will never be good enough” to yourself, generally quietly in your head. Well if this is true for sadness then it’s also true for feeling happy, afraid, ecstatic or for any emotion.
Knowing this gives power to a person knowing they may be feeling really bad or afraid, but they don’t need to stay in that emotional state. You can think of a time that was really happy for you and you will notice your shoulders will come up, your breathing will slow down and you lift your head and smile, practicing doing this helps you to change your emotional state and bring you to a place where you can think more clearly. It doesn’t take the situation away but it enables you to deal with it in a more lucid and constructive way and then you can start making plans for your own future - You have taken control.
This is also helpful when you find your fellow colleagues crumbling around you and if they are getting nasty you will deal with this better because you can be empathetic toward them instead of taking their emotional state as a personal attack against you. This is a time when all staff need to be kind and mindful of each other. Be sensitive and you can only do this if you are in control of your own emotions.
Also don’t be afraid to get some help, to talk through things, and have a positive support network around you. Having one person who you can confide in and just be real with makes all the difference.
Three: EVALUATE YOURSELF
Restructure is not the end of life, it can be the beginning of something fabulous. It’s an opportunity for you to think about what YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE.
Think about what you love to do and what brings you joy in your life. Can you make a career out of what you love? Do you want to retrain? There maybe some hard work ahead but I know it can be done as I did that last year while working full time going through a restructure. It was hard but I started out by thinking of what is it that I’m most passionate about in life and always have been. For me it’s always been people, no matter what job I have been in, looking after and caring for people has always been a priority for me so when I saw the Life Coaching course come up in my emails I thought this is what I want to do for the rest of my life, it’s something I don’t have to retire from and I can feel like I contribute something worthwhile to this world we live in.
It’s not all straight forward but working through each issue that arises one at a time I am making progress forward. Going through this training has helped me work through the things in my life that had me stuck; low self-esteem feeling worthless and incapable because of my not taking responsibility for my responses to the situations I had been through (restructures being one of the areas). Being coached through this time made all the difference and helped me to be brave and face myself. I am very grateful for this although at the time is was quite hard.
If you think about the things you have been drawn to all through your life you will find there are some things that keep coming up, take a look at those areas and see whether there may be potential for you to do something with them as a career. This is where getting help from a Life Coach helps. You get to work through the things that may be stopping you from moving forward, discover why you react the way you do to things that really frustrate you, and discover a new dawn to a very exciting life.
That’s what we love to do here at Inspiration Activated, help people discover themselves and to live a full and joyful life. Unlock the dreams that may have been put aside and learn to embrace you value as a person and where you can make a purposeful contribution in life.
Take it from me, having gone through many restructures I always know there will be a new dawn.
What does life coaching do? Well life coaching expands thinking, propels you forwards, upwards and onwards into the life of your choosing. It helps with decisions in any area of your life that you are facing challenge or struggle. Yes, your life is made up of a series of choices that you have responsibility for so choose wisely by investing in your development and growth in life. Continue reading to learn more about choice.
Did you choose to get out of bed this morning? How did you respond to a request from a loved one? In anger, in frustration or in delight? Did you apply curiosity to your morning’s uncertainties or instead fear the unknown?
Choice is an interesting concept. There is always more than one choice in a decision and yet sometimes we can get ourselves stuck by creating two seemingly difficult and complicated options to choose from. For instance, often people who are unhappy in a relationship will only see pain in both outcomes – I stay with him/her and feel unhappy or I choose to leave and break apart a family. Therefore, there are painful futures with both decisions. This keeps us in an emotional state of stuckness. This is NOT helpful. And yet, often because we are in an emotional state of fear or unhappiness, we lack the creativity to create NEW options and ideas that can propel ourselves into the life of our choosing which is bright, exciting and fulfilling. What if, the person in the scenario above could envision a future where they had a loving, happy relationship and family, what if they could upskill and uplift themselves and their family to a new level of relating to each other? OR perhaps they can envision the future when they can amicably part ways and yet maintain a functional relationship and go forward with their lives with joy and happiness. Both provide much more digestible options that allow growth in life rather than the feeling of going backwards and descent into despair.
I’ve recently read a book that I would highly recommend aptly titled “The Choice” by Edith Eger. This is a non-fiction account of Edith’s life outlining in detail her experience as a 16 year old in Auschwitz Concentration Camp, her eventual immigration to America and her life’s work as a Psychologist as she helps herself heal from the traumas she experienced whilst supporting others to do the same in their own lives. The main message is one so familiar to me that prior to reading this book I have used time and time again to support my growth in life, to prevent my suffering over situations in life and to support my healing from life’s enviable challenges. The message is 1) You have a choice – you have responsibility in life and 2) “No one can take away from you what you’ve put in your mind”. So hear the trumpet call to live and love and celebrate your life because it is precious, you are precious.
So run free in life,
P.S. If you think, ah my suffering isn’t as challenging as a survivor of Auschwitz is and therefore belittle your own experience, you are creating more suffering for yourself, your own personal jail, your own concentration camp of being a victim and you are making a choice to suffer more. Comparisons in suffering, like comparisons in beauty are futile. There is no scale to human suffering, your experience is your own as Edith’s experience is her own. People can have the same situations in life and have different responses. Choose your response now. Choose your life now. Choose to get in contact with us at Inspiration Activated and let us support you on your chosen life!
PPS. Interested in decisions? Find out more here https://www.inspirationactivated.net/blog/what-is-your-relationship-with-decisions
The statement above is true. The statement above is confronting for many of us. However, the background of the person saying this makes the impact of the statement hit your soul. When Kris Carr was 32 she was diagnosed with a form of cancer which the medical experts and her courageous self decided to play a ‘wait and see’ approach to treatment. Yes that means, no chemo, no radiation and no big pharma drugs. Her form of cancer was rare and surgery was impossible. She has lived with this cancer for over 15 years. And she has truly LIVED. She has given herself a purpose in life by working to make difference. She has inspired others with a ‘Crazy Sexy Cancer’ video, a Cancer Summit of Experts, a series of cookbooks and also supported her father through his own Pancreatic Cancer journey.
This story is similar to a young lady from Wellington New Zealand Eva McGauley she too faced a rare cancer diagnosis at the age of fifteen. She too had a choice to make about how she would live her life. She chose to truly live. She was nominated for NZ Herald New Zealander of the year last year for her efforts in fundraising $70,000 for a resource to support people facing sexual abuse. She went to university. She met the royal highnesses the Duke and Dutchess of Sussex Harry and Meghan. She died in November 2018.
So the question continues to be for you today and all days “Life is a terminal condition, we’re all going to die, but how many of us will truly live?” Choose what is important to you. Choose what is meaningful for you. Create the life you desire, deserve and go after your dreams.
Run free in life today
PINC Cancer Rehabilitation Physiotherapist
How do you feel love? Do you feel tingling hands or feet, butterflies in your stomach, heart pounding, the stretch on your face as you smile or something else? Did you know that when people feel love there are a series of hormones and chemicals changes that affect our body’s nervous system in a positive way? Love can be directed to and received from all areas of life. There is love of self, love of others, love of objects, hobbies, possessions and places and the list can go on. If you are willing to love more and more, you will notice love around you more and more. You can cultivate more love in your life right now, you have 10 steps to get there. Starting now!
1.Understand what love is and what it feels like to you.
Firstly, it is vital for you to have a good understanding of what love is. Love is a word or label we place upon a specific sequence or series of feelings that are unique to the individual. Each individual has a rulebook which represents how they love, what steps need to be ticked off and what intensity of feeling needs to be met in order for love to be felt. So love to me is felt in the heart space, in a specific cheeky smile unique to me and a group of other criteria. However other people may feel the tingling in their hands or feet and sparkles in their eyes. What is your experience of love? What does it feel like? Is it always the same or does it change? Consider this for a moment now prior to reading on.
The feelings that you have identified that to you represent love are important to know because now you can notice if your rulebook is getting in the way of your experience of the feelings of love. Everytime you notice yourself feeling loved, recognise it and consider whether you can feel more love in your life? Can you increase the intensity of the feeling? Can you allow it to hang around for longer?
2.Understand your rulebook for love.
Your rulebook on how you love or feel loved will determine how much, how frequently and to what intensity you experience the wonderful feeling of love in your life. Many people suffer because their unconscious rulebook for love is sabotaging their ability to feel loved. For instance, someone may have in their rulebook that in order for them to feel loved whilst they are working they must be rung or texted three times during the work day by their significant other, otherwise they won’t feel loved. So if we apply that rule, this individual won’t feel loved after the first text which said “Hi babe, you are the best, thanks for making my coffee this morning” and she won’t feel loved on the second text which said “Hi darling, I just saw a beautiful rainbow and thought of that beach trip together”. The only time they could experience love is after the final and third text which possibly in this example said “Hiya, I’m running really late as I’m busy at work I can’t make it home for dinner”. This final text meets the criteria of three texts during the day however the content doesn’t meet this lady’s criteria for feeling loved because he isn’t going to show up for dinner which is one of her other criteria for love. Thus the beautiful words and gratitude shown in the previous two texts were not received and felt as love, thus left to go to waste. The final text didn’t meet her criteria for loving words and therefore she won’t feel the incredible, life giving feeling of love. However, the final text could be interpreted differently and seen as the man valuing his dinnertime catch up, disappointment he couldn’t make it and that he cares enough to let his significant other know. Now remember this is an example and this lady could have a rulebook of love for her work, her hobbies, for herself and therefore get her fill of loving emotion at health giving levels in these other areas. However, her rulebook has flaws in it regarding her partner. Now it is to your own rulebook where your attention must go – now! Consider when you feel loved, consider when you don’t, consider how you can slightly tweak your rulebook in a way that is overall helpful to you and your life whilst ensuring your changes do not have any negative side effects to you or anyone else (you can always change it back – you are in control).
3.Understand other’s relationship with love will be different to yours.
Take the easier road to more love in your life – figure out what rules others have for love. This will ensure when you give love, it is more likely the receiver will reciprocate. This is a simple concept to understand because it is so obvious when you look as an observer. Consider the following scenario of a couple Daisy* and Grass* (*names changed): Daisy likes to give and receive presents for special occasions such as Birthdays whereas Grass tends to see something at anytime of the year and purchase that present, not really going into special effort on Birthdays. So both couples are giving presents with thought and with love but at different times of the year. This simple difference in the rulebook can be troublesome if both Daisy and Grass stick to their own rulebooks and do not tolerate or accept the love that has been given in a different manner to their rules. This can lead to resentment, frustration and lack of understanding rather than love. There are so much more to explore in this area and a great resource to support your understanding is the book “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. However until you complete that reading, just remember to be on the look out for your own rulebook as per step number three above and also consider the rulebooks of others. It is a wise move to figure out the major rules of those you have close relationships with and ensure you provide love in a way they will accept it easily and willingly.
4.What happens when you experience love?
Endorphins, oxytocin and all sorts of fabulous physiological changes occur when you love. It essentially is a way to improve your health and emotions. Emotional states within our lives are influential on the people around us, especially influential on those closest to us. For instance, can you remember a time your loved ones were in pain and therefore you felt it too? Have you ever been in a car with a friend who is annoyed at something? Of course you have, so you recognise their annoyance and figure out a way to either stay as silent as possible or to try to trigger their emotional outburst that is bound to eventuate at some point. In contrast, have you spent time around playful young happy children? You will end up smiling because their mood is almost contagious. Love is a feeling that like happiness and joy needs to be experienced more and more in the world. Why? Because when you feel love, you’ll feel good, be healthier and in doing so this powerful emotional state will have a supportive, loving, compassionate and calming effect on the world around you. Wow what an incredible emotional state to share with your family, friends and wider world!
5.Avoid holding love for only the big occasions of the year
The famous ‘Love Actually’ movie changes the song ‘Love is all around us’ to ‘Christmas is all around us’ with the aging rock star Billy Mack trying to make a comeback with the new version – of course you know the story. Yes the Christmas version works for the popular movie plot however ultimately both versions represent the same thing; that if you actually look for love and feel it, love truly is all around you always. In many respects the celebration of Christmas is an act of love. Christmas involves the act of giving and receiving in love, the act of wishing people well over the Christmas holidays and the various acts of sacrifice parents and families make to ensure Christmas is a fun filled occasion. Similarly if you ignore the commercial hype that can overshadow the underlying message of Valentine’s Day, it too is an opportunity to show and feel more love and affection in your life. Valentine’s Day, Christmas, Birthdays and all sorts of occasions are wonderful reminders to show your love of the people in your life. However, occasions in the other spectrum of emotion are also reminders to love; ill health, human atrocities, newspaper worthy tragedies and death of loved ones. However, like many important matters in life we often do not take the time to recognise the love we have, what is real love versus what we have negatively created in our dramatic minds. So take the opportunities you have each and everyday to show more love to those around you. And yet, remember instead of considering life is short choose to believe that life is precious. Therefore treasure it and those around you with love in your heart. Treasure your life like a jeweller with diamonds, gems and rubies sitting sparkling in cupped hands. Send love to those around you with compassion and kindness and by doing so all year round when you get the reminders throughout the year the intensity of your love will only increase from an already high level because you have cultivated your ability to love and show love.
When interviewed on love, Inspiration Activated’s life coach Jackie Lenihan said “Dreaming produces love in our hearts and reminds us to love ourselves, to love our future and to love our potential”. So, start dreaming the big positive loving dreams today! Dream the dreams that are exciting, inspiring and motivate you to start taking actions towards living life with more and more love; Dream of your passions, the things or places you love, the people you love and include dreaming about your future romantic relationship whether already in one or not. Given life is precious you might as well pursue that which you love! Such dreams with lots of pictures, videos, words, feelings, sounds and tastes strengthens your neural network in your body to recognise what you want. This helps with increasing your ability to recognise opportunities to love more in your life and also to take more and more actions towards your dreams.
7.Remember to love when life gets tough
The previous six steps are helpful to support you to cultivate more love in your life so that when life is tough (which inevitably happens) then you have the resources and skills in place to support you to access love quickly and strongly. However, even then when faced with grief, illness, injury, career challenge, gut wrenching mistake or so called failure, love can be hard to accept. However, it is vital to feel love during these times as it helps with acceptance, it helps with gratitude of small things, it helps with forgiveness of self or others and it helps you accept help from others in your time of need. I can recall many a time when I’ve been in a haze of suffering that I wasn’t open to accepting love. I didn’t want to love myself because I had been sooooooo stupid and that is why I was in a pile of pain, I didn’t want to accept love from others because I didn’t love myself and the cycle would continue from not accepting a meal made in love to not accepting the feeling behind a loving text message. This cycle only held me in pain and suffering. It held me in challenge. It is at these challenge times when you need to be open to love and accept it as much as you can. It will support you like a bed supports you when you have a lovely deep sleep. For me, every occasion I let a little bit of the light of love into my suffering dark world, more opportunities to ease my suffering would arise. For instance, I would notice after several days of not being able to sleep through the night I was finally resting fully, I would notice the warmth of a hug from a friend and I would have the capacity to love myself and show love to my family and friends. This giving back of love actually allows you to feel love more and more because when you give love to others such as a kind word or act of service you will experience feeling loving sensations within you.
8.Put into action your knowledge from steps one to seven.
Convinced you want more love in your life? Life is precious. Ensure you live yours to the maximum by cultivating more love in your life today.
Rachael is the founder of Inspiration Activated where she works with anyone facing life’s challenges or struggles. She uses NLP and Life Coaching to uplift, ignite and propel you to the life of your choosing. She also works as a Physiotherapist with a particular interest in Cancer Rehabilitation and mind-body connection. If you are interested in connecting with Rachael please visit the contact page of the website or follow on facebook at @inspirationactivated
It is my pleasure to introduce Inspiration Activated’s newest team member – Jackie Lenihan.
Jackie is an amazing life coach. She is particularly skilful at creatively providing insights that allow clients to see different perspectives and create breakthroughs in their lives. Anyone who has the privilege of being coached by Jackie will experience her beautiful bubbly personality and sparkling laugh. Jackie is skilful at identifying where clients could improve or consider alternative viewpoints. Clients will appreciate Jackie’s ability to carefully craft a story or example that provides the client with insights to enhance their learning in a kind and gentle manner. One important part of coaching is being genuinely excited for your clients and seeing their amazing potential especially when they don’t. When Jackie coaches she genuinely wants her clients to achieve the life they love. She recently worked with a client facing multiple options, her question “What if you could have it all?” This opened the client’s mind to the amazing possibility that there wasn’t a decision to make after all. Instead the client could choose to do everything they wanted in life. Jackie creates a supportive, enthusiastic and encouraging coaching environment. She makes coaching a lot of fun as well as providing the insights that clients require in order create the changes in their lives. So get ready to open yourself up to the possibilities of having it all when Jackie is your coach!
So read on about Jackie's story to get to know her a bit more. Jackie and I look forward to working together to support our communities with their life's journeys to support people to achieve greater self-awareness, self-acceptance, improved health and increased joy in their lives.
Remember to be compassionate and courageous and you'll hear from me soon
Hi, I'm JACKIE and this is little about my life and how I got to where I am at today.
I am a woman with a strong faith in God. I have spent most of my life caring for and supporting people. As a young person I would find people coming up to me and just wanting to download how they were feeling or just share their troubles. I used to think this wasn’t good thing and so spent a lot of time trying to change this aspect of my personality. But I have found over the years that it doesn’t matter what job I do people are always the priority for me. The best job I ever had was being a Life Guard at the local pool, I was privileged to be able to teach people to swim, children and adults. Teaching adults to swim was really rewarding as generally they had suffered trauma in their childhood and were afraid of the water. Seeing them take steps to get in the water and face their fears was very humbling. They were so brave!
The life guarding job worked well as it would fit in with the school and caring for my children. I have four and I was a solo mother, so this was definitely a gift for me. I have definitely been through a few hurdles in my life and have found that with every situation it has eventually given me strength that I didn’t know I had. I know how hard life can be at times and now want to use these experiences to help others.
I remember after being made redundant from one of my jobs that I was given the opportunity to start a counselling degree, I did manage to do the first year but after that with four school age children and working full time it became logistically impossible to fit everything in. I have now waited another 6 years wondering how this could even be possible, still the dream lives. In 2017 I lived through probably one of the hardest years of my life but through it all everything turned around. I got the opportunity to do Life Coaching training with Robbins Madanas training. This not only helped me work through all the fallout from the year but has given me a compelling future doing the thing I love to do more than anything, working with and helping people.
I’m now looking forward to working for the rest of my life with purpose and passion working alongside Rachael Kingstone the founder of Inspiration Activated helping people to transform their lives.
In health & happiness,
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Got a complaint? Have you ever been hangry? Have you got someone in your life who seems to complain, complain and complain? Find out more, read on now!
Have you been complaining for sometime about your job? Your relationship? Your neighbours rubbish bin on your driveway?.....
When we complain to our friends and family about our life’s circumstances we are often seeking some form of support. This can be reassurance, agreement and or outrage! Occasionally we complain to the person we want to change. Now this is when it gets really interesting. Perhaps you complain to your flatmate about the rubbish bin in a backhanded way for them to do something about it? Or perhaps you complain about the dishes hoping your partner will do them tonight.
Complaints tell us information if you only listen to the messages. Behind the complaint there are underlying reasons for our behaviour, the deeper reasons for why we are complaining and what we actually want. It is important to uncover these reasons in order to actually get a solution otherwise you will likely keep complaining because you are not getting what you want.
If you have been complaining for a while – here are some questions which will get you to a good outcome and progress forwards.
First of all: What am I wanting? And What is the best outcome here?
You need to honestly analyse what you want at the deeper level. Where is the anger coming from? What is the underlying issue here? Then you can put steps in place and start taking those actions to get what you want. Okay you want an hour to yourself in the mornings? - make it happen! Okay you just want some attention from your spouse? Make it happen in a positive way rather than a complaining way! Get creative, come up with 3 ideas of ways you can create happy memories and fun with your spouse.
If you are complaining about someone: Lead by example, hold yourself higher and figure out at least one possible reason behind their behaviour – what is this person seeking? And then see if you can figure out a strategy that will address the situation in a way that will get you an amazing outcome!
I know recently when I was overseas I could get a bit cranky when I didn’t know where my next meal was coming from and I was feeling hungry. So when my friend noticed this he could help with the planning of the next meal then surprise surprise my anxiety reduced and my hangry turned into simply hungry getting excited about the next meal!
And then finally: you have choices – do you want to complain about this area of your life? Or do you want to take some actions to change the circumstances or your response to this situation?
Get in touch for assistance in navigating your complaints through Life Coaching and start moving towards a brighter future now.
In health & happiness,
Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) Trainer
BHSc Physiotherapy, post grad Cert Sport and Exercise Science
P.S. Remember Life coaching is offered in Auckland (NZ) and online through skype too
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- Stop the suffering is the message in 'Enough is Enough'
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